Why is being an Empath SO hard?
It’s not. 😳
I used to believe that being an a Empath was hell on earth. It was my experience, I struggled, I was in pain. I lived in a negative black hole.
Yes, it’s different being an Empath, there are things that you can do and things that you are aware of and feel that not everybody can. But it’s only as I look back on my life that I can see the process, that my turmoil and chaos came from something else entirely.
I can see how easy it is to be fooled into thinking that your struggles come from being this way, partly because many Empaths experience the same things. And also because of the negative messages that are now so readily available on the internet and in Empath communities. These constant repetitions of what it’s like to be an a Empath has you thinking “yes! That’s me!”, you then naturally look to the “Empath label” as a reason for your pain. Doesn’t this give a sense of relief ?
It’s wonderful to understand that you’re not alone with all this stuff, that other people have it too!
Unfortunately this takes you down a road of trying to solve your issues as an Empath. Have you got anywhere with this yet? I did it for years and years … and years 🙂.
This is like waiting at the airport for a ship. You’re never going to get anywhere if you keep trying to resolve the wrong thing.
We need to get clear, to really shine a light on what the actual issue is, what is this problem? So that you can change direction and get yourself to the dock instead.
So what is it that many empaths suffer from? This “something else” they all have in common?
It’s some stuff from your past. It’s some false limiting beliefs you have about who you are. It’s a negative relationship that you’re having with yourself where you tell yourself you’re not enough, you’re not good enough, there’s something wrong with you.
Self worth and self esteem issues means you have no boundary, you aren’t clear where you end and someone else starts, you will look to other people, things and situations to make yourself feel ok about you.
You feel a need for other people to be a certain way, to support and love you, to understand and approve of you.
No boundary means you’re living in other people’s energy, hence the belief that being an Empath causes all these energy disturbances. The fact is that you are in control of your energy, no one can affect it, but you can put yourself in something that’s not yours or give your energy away. In fact this is what’s happening.
The pain of not liking yourself and the negative internal dialogue that goes with this is intense. These thoughts create emotional turmoil, you feel awful. You then lack confidence and motivation. You’re likely to suffer from anxiety and/or depression. Your self doubt means you suppress yourself and find it difficult to talk about how you feel, you will struggle with making decisions. You will feel stuck, big time.
This solution from this stuff is what to seek, the Empath stuff then resolves on its own. I tell you this from experience, I know what works and what doesn’t. I can see that my struggle came from an extremely low self esteem. Through my psychological training I was able to understand and see the effects of this, that all the symptoms I had in my life were from this.
I didn’t know what to do with it all so when I found people saying “ this is why you feel bad, you’re an Empath” I grabbed it with both hands, it felt like a life line. Only this line was something I was left hanging from with no solution. The pain continued. In fact it probably was worse, as I was now blaming something that wasn’t the cause. This is a particularly painful place to be as it causes more negative internal dialogue, blaming and resentment, I felt more helpless, being at the mercy of other people and their energy.
Because of all this, I have wanted for a long time now to put together the solution for you, all in one place, to offer the healing required with new learning and transformation shifts. To do this in the same way that I work with my one to one clients.
It’s ready! Are you? Check this out, I would love to see you there ……..