When I look back at a time when I was in SO much pain and I think about what I needed then, one of the things I needed was something to make sense of it all. Why did everything hurt so much?
- Maybe it’s to make me a better person
- Maybe I need to struggle
- It’s because it’s a spiritual path
- A common one … I’m an Empath and Empaths suffer, it’s just the way it is.
- I must have done something really bad in a past life
- What’s wrong with me? There’s something I need to fix about myself
Out of all things I considered, not once did I think that it didn’t have to be this way!
That maybe the point of what was happening was to understand one thing …. the way I was thinking about things was causing my own misery. I couldn’t have done that though, because thoughts are stuck in a loop. It’s only when someone else introduces new ideas to you that you can start to break down this painful pattern.
I couldn’t see the purpose of a life in constant struggle and I couldn’t see a way out of it.
So, there’s something I want you to know, in making sense of it all, the exhaustion, the feeling low for no apparent reason, the rejections, the constant battle of trying to understand other people, questioning yourself, isolating yourself because it’s just easier, constant unease and feeling crappy.
This is not a spiritual lesson to make you a better person although I also believed this once.
Your pain comes from an internal dialogue, fullstop! The things you tell yourself about you, about what’s happened, about people and about your life.
It comes from the external and internal negative messages that are pouring into your aura. Your mind doesn’t know what’s true or not, only what you tell it.
Negative thoughts create negative emotions.
You’re not dealing with a massively complicated problem here, although it absolutely feels like it right now.
This is what the posts you see mean about “changing your mind changes your life.” Perception shifts of how you think and what you believe changes things in a way that is actually difficult to put into words. It’s huge!
Even the Empath stuff is due to a perception problem rather than being an Empath in itself.
Suffering can only continue if you let it. It’s not something you have to do, it’s not your destiny.
Yes, you’ll need assistance to do this, I’m not going to say that you just change your mind on your own, trying to change your thinking through the thinking you’ve got will just make your head explode. I know because I tried.
There is help available for you here when you’re ready, I just wanted to let you know …. what’s going on inside of you that feels so massive and complicated, actually isn’t when you learn a new way.
Much love, Jan xxx