Are you willing to look at yourself? Because this is what needs to happen if you want to heal. You know I’ll tell you things as they are, I won’t fluff around and keep you in a stuck place. Living in la la land keeps you regenerating the same old problems, this is offered with love. A dose of reality to push you out of pain and struggle.
This won’t be for you if you’re not willing to delve into yourself, if you’re not open to making changes or if you’re not up for taking responsibility for yourself. If you feel like you want to avoid reading this, this page really won’t be for you 💖
Looking into yourself doesn’t have to be a painful and hard thing to do when you get help to do it. Doing it on your own will cause you to engage in the most painful self criticism and guilt and just feeling dreadful. It doesn’t have to be like this at all.
The core problem for most empaths is a false self identity, of not feeling good enough and believing you need to be better. This is actually the problem. This is the heart of why you feel bad. It’s why you have no boundary and allow energy from others to throw you off balance and feel negative.
Being empathic means that you can see other people’s point of view doesn’t it? Yet there is some stuff that is kept well out of your awareness right now .. you literally won’t be able to see it until it’s pointed out.
You say you want to feel better, to get these issues sorted and if you feel that you can’t do this for yourself, what you’re about to understand will help you to do it for others.
I’ll offer a trigger warning here so if you don’t want to dive into this then stop reading now.
If you continue, don’t think that you’re on your own, reach out for the help and support that you need and deserve.
I help a lot of people, including the partners of Empaths. Understanding the perspective of what it is like for them is eye opening, uncomfortable and ultimately will break the chains and allow you to do something about it for yourself.
There is no reward in heaven, or some enlightenment waiting for you through all this suffering. There is no benefit at all. So let’s have a look at the effects on others.
An Empath partner’s perspective on the reality of your suffering. (Or anyone that you are close to)
“I just want her to be happy, I want to make her happy but I can’t. I feel totally helpless to make anything any better. I don’t know what to do, what to say or how to support her. To be honest, it’s making me feel useless and a bit depressed.
Every day is upset and negative stuff, it’s like all we can talk about is problems. It’s dark and it’s heavy. Surely there’s more to life than that? I don’t understand it at all.
Watching someone you love suffer is so painful to me. I feel constantly upset about it all. It’s affecting my sleep and my work. I just don’t feel at ease. I dread coming home to something I can’t resolve or help with. I don’t know what she wants from me, I’m no therapist and I don’t understand all the emotional stuff. It’s like she wants me to fix it and that feels such a burden, I don’t know how.
She’s explained things to me but this doesn’t ease the fact that I’m watching her suffer. It’s not good for her at all. She says that other people’s energy affects her, that it makes her feel horrible. It’s so confusing and upsetting and every solution I come up with has no impact at all, this increases the frustration. I’ve become unsure of myself, not knowing how to approach her, I just feel helpless.
There’s other stuff that happens and I have felt like I’m losing my mind, she tells me what I’m thinking and feeling, she’s convinced she knows but she doesn’t know. I end up doubting my own thoughts and feelings and I feel like my head will just burst.
She presumes what I mean and puts a twist on the things I say, almost to make it like I’m insulting her or not caring or something. I get so upset and frustrated at this because I care so much and she’s telling me that I don’t.
Times where she tries to fix me like I’m broken, to make me different in some way, leaves me thinking that I’m not good enough as I am. I feel like she’s trying to get into my mind and analysing me, it’s really uncomfortable. It feels invasive and I want to get away. I lose patience and get angry because I just can’t cope with it anymore.
I don’t say a lot about how I’m feeling, I don’t want to make things worse for her.
What can I do?”
As an Empath you can feel other people’s feelings but only when you put your attention there. When you are consumed with the pain and difficulty of inner turmoil you won’t notice the impact and the consequences. Your attention is on you and you won’t notice their struggle.
How do you feel to watch someone you love in pain? This is what it’s like for the people who love you.
Let’s stop this.
Your first step to empowerment and out of this pattern of behaviour that’s hurting you and those around you is here :